by Omolola Oriogun
As long as GOD is not a part of your relationship, it will not stand. Such relationship will not stand the test of time; the trials and tribulations of life, let alone the difficulties of this world. Life is tough. Everybody has had a tough time at one point or another. Some have overcome or are still in the process of overcoming. Nobody has had it perfect. Everybody has had to overcome something in their life. You may not have seen it, or you were not there to experience it with them.
Just like, what happened in the early hours of a Saturday morning while having the family devotion. Around 5:30am, a terrible noise from the neighbourhood that was highly disturbing started. I endured the noise till the end of devotion, at the same time wondering ‘Why the fighting, crying, curses, etc.’ As I was rounding off my devotion to start preparing for the day, I committed the family and their situation into the hands of the LORD.
Throughout that day, as I put things together and in order, my mind was on that family and every time I thought of them I whispered a word of prayer for them.
Though I cannot say precisely what was the end of their fight but I can categorically say that GOD heard my prayers for them, cause by the end of that same day, there was peace and tranquillity. They still live together as a couple and till this day, I’ve not heard a fight. I don’t know if they are Christians but I do pray for them.
How does this tie with relationships? Without having an individual walk with GOD, both in serving and obeying Him, you cannot make it through life successfully, or be prosperous in marriage or other relationships. In particular, as long as God is not involved in your marriage, you’ll always have issues with your spouse, fighting and battery all the time and ultimately divorce as long as GOD is not involved in your marriage. In marriage, you not only have the responsibility for yourself, but also for your spouse. Everything is no longer only about you, but about your spouse too.
In a godly marriage, you must consider your spouse over yourself, and when both individuals choose this, they will have a selfless and godly marriage. God must be first in your heart individually, and then corporately as a couple. Only when God is first in your life can you truly love your spouse the way God intended.
In Eph. 5:21-31, spouses are commanded to submit to themselves as they will to the LORD. For the wives, it means submit to your husbands as to the LORD. While for the husbands, it means love your wives, just as CHRIST loved the church and gave up HIS life for her.
For a relationship to stand the test of time, both individuals must revere JESUS CHRIST as the first priority and final authority. It is only by that they can then choose to submit to each other. With this in place, the woman would easily submit to her husband as head of the home as he himself has submitted to CHRIST. This does not mean he is her boss, but that he is the spiritual head of their home, and with this comes a great responsibility and accountability for him from GOD. For any wife to feel safe submitting to her husband in this manner, he also needs to have submitted to CHRIST in everything.
If any man loves his wife in this manner, she will know that he will never abuse his authority in the household. Wives, there is great strength that will come to you from GOD in your obedience to the LORD by submitting and obeying your husbands. Only when you are submitted to GOD in this manner, will your prayers of faith be effective. For your prayers not to be hindered as a couple, you need to obey the word of GOD to the letter.
Lastly, if we are submitted to GOD in our hearts, He will lead us through the difficulties of life, help us to overcome the pitfalls that can come with marriage and other relationships, and teach us how we can be a better husband or wife. Seek the Lord now concerning your life, relationship and marriage and you will be better for it.
I may not have been opportuned to minister the grace of GOD to the couple I spoke about earlier because our paths have never crossed but I prayed the grace and salvation of GOD into their life and I know GOD heard me.
Further reading: Eph. 5:21-28,31; 1 Cor. 7:3-4; 1 Cor. 11:3; Prov. 12:4; Prov. 18:22; Prov. 31:10-11,23,28; Col. 3:18-19; Tit. 2:4-5; and 1 Pet. 3:1,5,7.
GOD bless you!!!